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Arguably the greatest cause of stress at this time of year is finances.  How can I afford to purchase all of the "things" for my family and friends?  This question may be dancing around in your head instead of visions of sugar plums.  Not to worry.  With a little creative thinking and pushing some "should" thoughts away, you can make this holiday different. 

There are several right answers – the most obvious answer is you don’t have to buy expensive gifts.  Just because something appears on TV or in the 3,486 catalogues that arrive, or even on a wish list – there is no law that says you must purchase. There are many ways to cut back on holiday spending (that you may be still paying for next July).  Talk with family members.  Most people (with the exception of insatiable children) have more than they can use or need.  Consider small token gifts based on the person’s favorite foods, or interests.  Agree ahead of time on dollar amounts and stick to it.  Do not let "shoulds" dictate your spending.

You might agree to give to a charity in the name of your family, or find a needy family to help.  The joy of giving often creates a warmth of heart and mind and no holiday hassle.

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Learn to say "no".  No is a complete sentence!  You do not have to jump to fulfill every request that is made of you.  You do not have to bake cookies for every group you belong to. You do not have to count shopping till you drop as a replacement for sleep and exercise.  These demands rob your body and your brain of things that maintain stability and good health.  You do not have to eat everything on the holiday buffet line or drink to excess.  Ask yourself, "What part of ‘no’ do I not understand?"  Learn to ignore "shoulds" and treat your brain to positive rather than negative effects.  Learn to plan ahead.  Select one or two parties to attend, eat and drink in moderation (you know you will pay the price if you don’t). Create a simplified list and make one well planned shopping trip. Shop sparingly.  Come home and wrap gifts to music.  Your brain and body will thank you.

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Relations – Families can be a source of conflict at any time, but holidays often bring out the worst in us.  Make a special effort to consider holidays the time of year to forgive and forget old wrongs (valid or not).  Take on the shield of kindness, love and being together. Your brain will produce wonderful endorphins to make you feel good all over.